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by Kat

I've been without my engagement ring for four days. I just got it back, and boy is that nice. I feel naked without it! It's all polished up and fitted with a sparkly, new diamond just for me. :) A while back I noticed a speck in my old stone and thinking that maybe there was something stuck in the setting that was causing a reflection, I took it to the jeweler to have it examined. Turns out I was seeing an inclusion that was supposedly "invisible to the naked eye." I won't credit myself with hawk-eyes, but I do spend an awful lot of time looking at my ring. Wouldn't you?

Nevertheless, I was fine knowing that I was seeing the stone's inclusion, since I knew there were a few small ones even though it was a very fine diamond. Justin, however, who was unable to see the inclusion with a 10x loop when he bought it, decided that he couldn't cope with me being able to see a flaw. He insisted it would make him happy if I let the jeweler bring in a few stones for to consider as replacements.

On the one hand, I didn't want to let my stone go-- it was in my ring when we got engaged and that made it SPESHUL. On the other, I was willing to acknowledge that it was just a stone and if Justin would be relieved to know I wouldn't find flaw in another, and happy to replace it. So we looked at four .75ct stones this Saturday and they all sparkled so nicely that it was hard to decide even with the loop. Justin hadn't hit the top of his budget for the ring when he had it built, so the extra cash went toward the upgrade. (Note: I did tell him he could perfectly well just set it aside for a trip to Japan or something fun.)

I would have been happy with what I had but it's nice to have my ring back all shiny and new looking. It's strange, but I feel more confident with it on my finger... it's a nice "off limits" status symbol and a gorgeous reminder of my love... and I like that.

Posted on November 15, 2006 @ 6:13 PM | 10 comments

Comments:

Wow, your rock is BIG! Mine's about a .2 carat or so...

I looked at my engagement ring a lot too. I was obsessed with it. I brought it back to the jeweler several times, insisting the crown was JUST SLIGHTLY less than perpendicular to the band. They treated me like "oh here comes ms. CRAZY again. I think they were humoring me and just taking it to the back and waiting a few minutes before returning it to me. This was at Skie's in Eugene.

Finally I took it to a jeweler/goldsmith here in grand forks after we moved, and he saw what I was talking about all the way. ended up replacing the entire crown too. I'm not crazy. I just have insane attention to detail if I look at something long enough.

By Lazy Lightning, at 6:32 PM, November 15, 2006

I blame being up against a timeline for missing that little speck the first time through. Although I'm sure no one but myself and Kat would ever see it, I'm far too tightly wound to accept that.

Kat was very understanding that I'm obsessively detail oriented. But it drove me nuts that there was something there. So I have to thank my sweety for being understanding and letting me make this little change. She is very tolerant.

By Justin, at 9:42 PM, November 15, 2006

SHINY!

By Kat, at 9:44 PM, November 15, 2006

more pix of the Presshhus please!

By rebecca, at 12:37 AM, November 16, 2006

ooh that reminds me that i need to take mine in to get checked and cleaned. Now that you've got it, isn't it exciting to have it on your finger all the time? When I am in a store or something I like that people can see that I am married...it makes me think that maybe they are less likely to just judge me as the "typical young naïve college student"...and makes me feel all like a grown up woman. I'm probably crazy, cause I'm sure no one else gives it that much thought...but it makes me feel good.

By Anonymous, at 7:10 AM, November 16, 2006

i love my ring too and look at it constantly. it's not a solitaire but instead lots of little diamonds in an modern triangular setting. i could stare at all it's little angles for hours :)

By gleek, at 8:40 AM, November 16, 2006

eek, sometrouble, you can't make generalizations about someone just because she's married! a woman can be an immature ignoramus whether she's young or old, single or married. i'm sure you know that. plus, marriage doesn't even necessarily "prove" a relationship's strength or worth or anything like that.

By Anonymous, at 7:51 PM, November 16, 2006

I'm sure she wasn't generalizing in that way. I know what she means... people take you less seriously when you are young and single, sadly. It's gotten better, I'm sure, over the years. But there IS a noticeable difference in the way people approach you and your relationship when you say "husband" or "fiance" rather than "boyfriend," no matter how long you've been with the person.

By Kat, at 9:53 AM, November 17, 2006

Kat and Sometrouble both have a point, anon, sorry. As a married/engaged woman with a ring on, you ARE sometimes taken more seriously and treated more like an adult on the basis of your left-hand decoration. Of course, the way you dress also plays a part, as does anything that comes out of your mouth. A blithering idiot is still a blithering idiot regardless of jewelry... but we're talking perceptions at the moment, and married women are perceived as being more together.

By Lazy Lightning, at 6:21 AM, November 20, 2006

blah. why can't we just all say "partner" and keep the law out of it? i understand what ya'll are saying, and you're right. perceptions suck though.

By Anonymous, at 5:25 PM, November 23, 2006